Love changes...

I often hear people say "Just love the person, it'll change him". Yes, there's nothing love can't reach, even the most notorious person can be moved by love. We are used to hearing stories of a bad-guy-turned-good stories because someone loved them despite of who they were. But as I try to live that "love your enemies" command by Jesus, I see the more that it's never an irony. Jesus really knew what he was teaching. Yes, it may seem absurd at first. But you see, when we love a person, he doesn't change immediately. Sometimes it may take years or a lifetime to see the change. But I think the reason why we should love our enemies is not really to change the person but us. You see, love changes not only the recipient of it but all the more the giver of it. I don't know with you but for me that's how love works. The people I love don't always respond in a mutual way. Sometimes they remain the same until they're out of my life but the love I give never fails to change me..even in the slightest way possible.

And oh, don't stress yourself if the person doesn't change, just keep loving. It's not really us who change a person but God :) I daresay my friend, keep loving; God loves you and that's where your source of love should be. Besides, God's vessel of love never runs dry. :)

“Now there is a final reason I think that Jesus says, "Love your enemies." It is this: that love has within it a redemptive power. And there is a power there that eventually transforms individuals. Just keep being friendly to that person. Just keep loving them, and they can’t stand it too long. Oh, they react in many ways in the beginning. They react with guilt feelings, and sometimes they’ll hate you a little more at that transition period, but just keep loving them. And by the power of your love they will break down under the load. That’s love, you see. It is redemptive, and this is why Jesus says love. There’s something about love that builds up and is creative. There is something about hate that tears down and is destructive. So love your enemies. (from "Loving Your Enemies")”
― Martin Luther King Jr.